How to stop blaming myself for what happened?

Answer

It took me so long to come forward to talk about my fears because I thought it was my fault. I was the one that got in the car with the police officer who abused me and there was nothing that could be done that would changed my mind that it was not my fault. Not until much later, I realized that it’s never the child’s fault. As I got older, I learned that in my 13 year old mind, I couldn’t process what had happened to me. So I found a way to compartmentalize it and store it away. I overcompensate in other areas. I would say to any young person, or any person that was abused as a young kid is, it is not your fault.

Provided By

Al Chesley

Survivor